The problem with today is that there is many addictions. The most silent and neglected one is Internet Addiction. So many people have no clue of the harm for a parent to sit and post by blogging or on community posts and debates. That they live a little differently online than in real life. There is reality and there is a being within the person that is in denial and can't face every day reality or accept the truth of themselves that they start to not make sense.

Example: (pay attention to the highlight more than anything else). and notice on some of my response truth on the underlined areas as well.

Here is a mother posting everyday on the community place, mostly always answering and or debating, or most likely sharing about her and her situation. In this example there is her reality life and her fake lie life. Which does affect those who say are her friends and believe her and those that know the truth around her.

The mothers reply on one: (*notice)

When our twin girls were born we lived in a one bedroom apartment. They were in a crib in our room, but there were some nights that the only way we would all get some sleep is if my husband was on the couch and the girls were in bed w/ me. We moved into a 2 bedroom place when they were 3 months old and they've been in their own room/beds ever since.

*I became single right before my son was born and we are in a 2 bedroom place, so.... my son has always been in my room. He slept upright on me while I was propped upright in my bed for the first 5 months of his life... it was the only way we could both get some sleep. I wasn't sleeping much anyway. He was in his crib from 6-14ish months before moving back into my bed. He's 2.5 now and has been back in his bed (crib converted to bed) right next to my bed for about 5-6 months now.

The same mothers reply on another: (*notice)

I’m going to be walking contradiction on this post cuz I’m saying no…even though I AM currently a SAHM on welfare.  : ) Though when I am referring to welfare I am only referring to cash assistance. I put medical insurance, food stamps, and housing assistance on different level. Technically they ARE welfare, but since they are things I most likely will never be off of even when I am working a full time job…it’s slightly different to me.

Now, in a 2 parent household I don’t think children should ever be PLANNED to be on welfare just so the mom can stay home. I know if we couldn’t have afforded for me to stay home before our girls were born….I wouldn’t have gotten pregnant at that time. That is how important it is for me to stay home w/my kids. I wouldn’t have them if I couldn’t raise them. Which is WHY I’m currently on welfare to stay home w/my son. I spent the first 6 months of his life crying pretty much ALL the time because I KNEW I shouldn’t get a ‘real’ job. But I just couldn’t do it. I refused to short change my son simply because *his father decided to walk out on us and not support HIS kids. ‘Funny” thing is…if he were man enough to pay the support he is court ordered to pay…I wouldn’t BE on cash assistance and we’d be better off financially then we are now…even before I get a job. We don’t have daycare centers here and no one I trust w/my son is available to watch him full time…so. I’m hanging in there the best that I can until he goes to preschool next year and then hopefully I will be able to find a decent enough job to work w/those hours since I STILL won’t have anyone to watch him when he’s not in school. Which is why I DESPERATELY would like to find a job I could do from home. I want to be the one to raise my kids. That’s why I had them.

Another reply from same mother:

Does he have court ordered visitation already or has there just been a court date set? Your best bet would be to talk to a lawyer about setting up supervised visitations for now until he can prove that he can care properly for his son.

Another reply from same mother: (*notice)

*My ex left when our 2 year old son was born. He has been 'involved' in the past 8+ months (one weekend/month or less), but my son has never received a bday or Christmas present from him. It is definitely hard. I think my son is 'luckier' than his sisters (8) in the sense that a life w/out a REAL dad is the only life he's ever known. Definitely different for my girls who HAD a Daddy for 6 years.....

Okay I think that was enough examples, even though there are more to confuse you with! However did you notice the *notice pointers that I pointed out. So what is up with this mother? Did the father leave her and the kids, so called abandoned them after her son was born or did she decide to become single before her son was born? if you read between the notices and kind of put it together it is sad how not facing reality and trying to live off self pity and a fake life, it can make you mentally ill and unsound.

Truth:

The father was home with this family and did decide to have an affair after feeling like a divorce was kind of essential since this woman tried to sleep with his teenage nephew and ruined his life, and don't clean or cook or take care of the kids after school as a STAY AT HOME mom. Also, mostly because she never have real passionate feelings to make love or have any sex necessary, the only ones was necessary was because the other kids were in school and it was about time she helped to support the family and not just stay home and do nothing but be online. So instead of doing that she so badly wanted another child to make sure the husband wouldn't make her go to work and most of all after her pedophile act she did on his nephew, felt having a baby would keep him around and her husband would not leave.

So her husbands affair was what it was. Yet, he was still home trying to make the marriage work, still supported the wife and kids. She the wife decided to leave and not work on the problems to clean house, cook and be a wife she should be and a mother to spend quality time with the family/kids like she should rather than live her life on the internet. Yes, that's the truth, She up and left her husband and with pity from everyone using the excuse that he cheated on her got enough sympathy to get a place free and she immediately applied for financial assistance/full welfare. And claim the children.

*Now that did not sound like the father abandoning or leaving them does it?

So from there, She expected her husband still take care of her financially and take care of the kids on weekends and after school before there bedtime to be with dad and all that he ever did before (so she can still be a STAY AT HOME mom, ONLINE!) Anyways, except she expressed very well that those children were hers.(because of course with out them, she wouldn't have a free place to live and financial assistance to pay her electric bill and internet bill.) She made it clear that they needed her more than him. Even though dad was the very primary care taker all their lives, one taking care of ALL of them, work, cook, clean and do the quality time going places, doing things with the kids as she tag along or stay home (STAY AT HOME MOM,ONLINE!)

So after some months of her husband living alone, being called for only what they needed. And being lied about to everyone she contacts with and making him such a predator to her. Yes the husband got fed up, But did not leave the city yet. Why? Because he wanted to still help with the pregnancy and take care of the children while the mother always claims she can't do anything because she has complications with the pregnancy. Does that sound bad? In the meantime, mother don't still tells everyone at that time, she is alone with the kids and he is never a help or don't care and already abandoned them. So don't matter, men are stubborn. He stayed till the son was born, it is right at least to see your child born. But since he already knew, she was a single mother living her life alone with her own kids and he ain't nothing to them, and She don't need him and don't care to be with him ( obviously since she choose to move out and not still live with him or even on the property he lives on with separate dwellings which he had and at least for better sake of the kids.) What kind of marriage is that? What kind of life is that? What was he to do, live her lie life in secrecy that he was still a part of their lives or do he move on too?

It was obvious he moved on after the son was born and moved where he wanted to for opportunities was better financially and since she didn't support him or didn't ever want to move out of her home city with him anyways as his wife, he did leave after she already made it clear he was needed to babysit his kids and support his absent wife financially. Do you consider that a divorce? Does her post justify that She was forced to be on welfare? Do you think she was single before her son was born while still legally married? Do you think that means for some instance while beneficial, she wants people to think her children s father is a dead beat dad, just because he did stop financially supporting her and moved so there went her babysitter? Do you think you could trust someone that convince you she was left and abandoned from her husband for another woman, rather than because she don't care to try mend or give a damn about the marriage, but most of all took her husband for granted? Would you think a woman that confess to her husband that with having the children, she never ever expected him to stop supporting her! is someone whom is sound enough to care for those children that she never did care for financially in her whole mother hood life, and CAN'T SEEM TO GRIP REALITY THAT SHE DOES NEED TO WORK sometime soon to support them. What will happen, if she still sits online and lives her confused posting white lies life and welfare runs out on her?

Yes, she never held or had a real job all her life.

Yes, she does consider her children father a dead beat dad, because he takes time and money to fight in court for visitation rights and to be a part of his children life without her full control with who, what, when and how. So While doing his best to be a dad for his children and can't always afford child support (more financial assistance for mom) HE is a forbidden dead beat dad that the children wouldn't be a part of his life if wasn't for court orders.

Yes, She was married but separated from her husband before her son was born. Not single, Not abandoned.

Now, don't confuse yourself but this is hell a funny! Now that you know the facts, read the replies *notices again. And tell me if this person sounds like they are capable of taking care of herself, let alone the kids.

Especially when the kids want and wish to go live with daddy and are sick and tired of moms life on the internet and can't stand another day to make their own microwave meals from a box. Let's not forget, always pick up and look after the toddler child and even go unattended at home outside with toddler child and play with no parent involvement at all because the internet addiction mom has. Besides why would she love them any more than their dad? The internet was more important than doing her wifey duties and the internet is more important than doing mommy duties. Supporting children from state assistance and hand outs that are becoming more of a hassle to people and the community after a few years, is different from being a responsible loving providing parent.

I think she's it!

How would you feel if you were totally against your will to be blocked and never use your profile again? Without forewarning of anything not even justification if you did something wrong or not. Just blocked and not able to enter your profile and space you have made.

In the meantime, your not able to delete your profile that you know people within that certain community has been attacking, defamation upon you, and vulgarly bait and use abusive words toward you and about you. Especially when it's all false opinions and accusations that had nothing to do with any of your own personal posts or suggestions toward anyone one else. Just straight attacks and negative and then without any justifications the site picks the one or ones that has been there for longer than a new member has been. And decides to take it upon themselves to IGNORE AND BLOCK the new harmless member and take the personal problem of another longer using abusive member to dismiss you.

How would you feel?

Yes, this is a true pertaining fact and there is fact to this story! that one community based place, I would caution some people to go to, because there are a lot of dead beat dad haters (even though no one really knows the truth of the fathers), Internet addiction mothers that neglect their children (yes, I know for a fact of one, whom is on the community site everyday, all day! with children that are helpless to the mothers wrath) and even though some may not have been perfect to their marriages and themselves did cheat are also very passive to blame others for their failed marriages due to their own dishonest and yes, addiction to the internet. Which they have chosen above all their family, friends, marriage, children, and very one husband. Sad, but true. And that is why I am unfolding the reality and fact of Internet addiction causing world wide sorrow. A slow leaking and wreaking havoc of a so-called thing Internet.

Hope all that read this take to heart to live fully a real life and do not get caught in the Internet Addiction epidemic that has been noticed and now being dealt with world wide. I know many many people online that likes communities, blogs and other social networks. But still take care of their responsibilities in life and does not neglect others, and have a reality grip on real life and not on false internet lives, which some people live to live for, being more than what they say or share online about themselves.
* Gonna save the name of this place. But I will mention it is a so-called safe place for mommies to share and give advice and support one another. (last place in the whole internet world I ever felt such sick tummy aches and anxiety from and no support but hurt and betrayal as well as serious defamation and discrimination)

http://www.khaleejtimes.com/Displayarticle08.asp?section=technology&xfile=data/technology/2009/September/technology_September21.xml - Internet addiction recovery center opens in the US.

*anyone a victim from internet addiction? - anyone realize that you may have a symptoms of internet addiction and not know it? The link above provides 11 symptoms otherwise read my older posts. Help and recovery is a good thing!